Twin Life

My Top 20 Do’s and Don’ts for Twin Moms

As I reflect on the last twenty months of my life as a mom of twins, I feel like I finally have my head above the water and thing are beginning to get easier now. The first couple months of motherhood as a twin mom were the most challenging times as a mother that I have ever experienced. It’s only now that I feel like I have a good handle on this twin mom experience.  In honor of my twins turning 20 months this Sunday, I thought it would be fun to share my Top 20 do’s and don’ts tips for twin moms.

  1. Do get as much sleep towards the end of your pregnancy because after your twins are born you won’t sleep for another three weeks, at least.
  2. Do yourself a favor and be prepared for an emotional roller coaster ride at the beginning. Keep a journal to keep track of your feelings and reflect on them later.
  3. Don’t try to do it all especially in the beginning, maintaining the house, taking care of the newborn twins, cooking, etc. You will burn out!
  4. Do have a pow wow with the hubby about how much work it’s going to be in the beginning and how you will need his help. Double team!
  5. Don’t worry about not bathing the twins every night, especially when they are newborns. Wash cloth wipe downs work just as good sometimes. Sleeping will be a priority for you. Trust me!
  6. Don’t go too crazy and start buying two of everything in the beginning. You only need one changing table, one diaper pail, etc. You will become an expert about thinking logistically. Thinking about how you will do things with two will come to second nature for you.
  7. Don’t stress about the little things. Things can’t always be perfect with two.
  8. Do try to keep your babies on the same schedule. Wake them up at the same time. Feed them at the same time. Have them nap at the same time. It’s totally doable! After all, it will give you a nice break when they are both napping and sleeping at the same time.
  9. Do invest in a sleeping mask! It really comes in handy when you need to nap during the day.
  10. Do accept help when offered.
  11. Don’t compare yourself as a mom to moms, especially moms of singletons. You have way more mom duties- double to be exact!
  12. Do take your twins out of the house as soon as you think you can. You can do it! Even if it’s for a walk around the neighborhood, or a nice car ride with the windows rolled down. Fresh air does a body good!
  13. Do find yourself a few twin mom friends. It’s so nice to vent to a fellow twin mom that can truly understand your frustrations.
  14. Do yourself a favor and purchase two of the same exact toys when they reach the age of 18 months. They each will want their own toy and they aren’t mature enough to understand what it means to share. Definitely, practice sharing, though.
  15. Do hug each baby at least three times a day for 6 seconds. I read somewhere that by doing this you create a stronger bond with your children. Now, my twins will randomly come up to me and hug me. It’s the best feeling in the world!
  16. Don’t let their dirty clothes pile up. Try to wash their clothes about every 2-3 days. I’ve noticed that it helps with stains and I purchase less clothing since I always have clean ones available.
  17. Do think about and plan your days accordingly, in the morning or the night before. What device (stroller, wagon, baby carrier and stroller, etc.)  will be best to contraption to contain your twins in.
  18. Do pack double snacks and bring water bottles everywhere you go. My twins are guaranteed to be content if they have food in their bellies.
  19. Don’t feel bad about making time for yourself. Whether you head to Target alone, go to the gym, or even enjoy a nice relaxing bath (without any interruptions). Tell your hubby, grandparent, or find a caregiver you can trust to watch the twins for you. You will feel revived after having a break from the chaos!
  20. Do smile more and don’t worry too much because every little thing is going to be alright.  =)

I hope that these tips will be useful for you!